I hadn't considered the pressure women feel to have to be pleasing to a man, but rather was referring to the sex act itself. Many woman--not all, but a lot of us--wait for the man to lead the sexual experience. He gets us aroused, he introduces (or doesn't) foreplay, he decides when to penetrate, he sustains a pace until his partner indicates she's ready for his ejaculation, or he has to hold himself until he pulls out. That's what I was referring to. I know this is a huge generalization, but I'll bet it describes what's happening in a lot of bedrooms.